Why Family Culture Matters and How You Can Start Cultivating Yours
A few years back my husband and I realized that our family life looked nothing like we imagined. We were overscheduled, disconnected, and burnt out from the busy. We knew in order for things to change we had slow down, re-establish our values, and identify the gap between what our life was like and what we wanted it to be. So decided to write a family mission statement.
It turned out to be harder than I thought. While I found lots of information about why it was important, I couldn’t find much on how to do it. Eventually, I created a step-by-step process that my husband I followed and then shared it on Circles of Faith. To get started we set aside a few hours, grabbed oversized sheets of paper, markers, pens, along with a cup a tea, and the Mission Statement Discussion Sheet I created. We talked about our passions, our values, and the things we wanted to accomplish.
After numerous discussions, we still didn’t have a statement that we could embrace. Something was missing. So I went back online and started to look into how well-known companies came up with their mission statements. When I did, I kept bumping into the concept of culture and why it was so crucial to a successful organization.
That’s what we were missing! A basic understanding of what we wanted the culture of our family to be.
SO WHAT IS CULTURE?
Culture is the heart of an organization and yes, even a family.
According to Wikipedia, organizational culture is the “behavior of humans within an organization and the meaning that people attach to those behaviors.”
Culture is what organizations become known for.
For example, Patagonia is known for their passion for the planet, Google for employee perks and stimulating work environment, and Chipotle for their simple and healthy food with integrity.
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WHAT DOES CULTURE HAVE TO DO WITH FAMILIES?
A family culture is the norms, values, beliefs, and customs a family lives with.
Just as in business, family culture refers to how a family relates to one another, works together, and achieves goals. Family culture is the DNA of a family. It’s the what of, “That’s just the way we do things.” Just like a fingerprint, it's what makes your family unique.
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WHY IS CULTURE IMPORTANT?
Research shows that family culture plays an even more influential role in shaping a child than parenting styles do.
In the workplace, healthy culture retains employees. In a family, healthy culture maintains engagement and promotes belonging. Through ups and downs, your family culture will tether you and your children to your values and one another.
What people want in their workplace is the same as what members want in their family. To be a part of a winning team, something that works. To contribute to visible, tangible results and to feel the excitement of being a part of something bigger than themselves. An intentionally created culture within a family provides that.
For my husband and I to have a mission statement that truly represented what our family could and should be, we had to determine what kind of culture we wanted.
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